Among Friends – Who Do You Want To Be?

Who Do You Want To Be?

The question distracting us from the one we should be asking.

Who Do You Want To Be?

My teenage daughter is filling out college questionnaires, and they all ask the same perplexing question: “What do you want to be?”

The problem is, she doesn’t know. Not yet.

I think it’s the wrong question. Too often, who we want to be gets mixed up with a job title or a more personal goal—we want to be a pediatrician or somebody’s girlfriend, wife, or mother, for example.

Maybe a better question to ask is, “Do you know who you are?” In my self-description on Pinterest, I settled on a series of words: Girly. Nerdy. Vintage-loving. Writer. Wife. Mother. Christ-follower.

Truth be told, my clever little list is incomplete. You could add some not-so-flattering words: klutzy, disorganized, tired, cranky. These are also true, but not really what I want to shout to the world.

One thing I love about following Jesus is that He knows me completely. In Him, Scripture says, “I am fully known” (1 Cor. 13:12).

Fully known. There is powerful truth in that verse about our identity. In Christ, we are known, including our ugly little secrets we try to cover up.

God knows my weakness. He knows that some days I just want to lie in bed, watch HGTV on repeat, and eat an entire bag of Dove chocolates. He knows that sometimes I feel guilty for being a working mother or snapping at my husband.

God also knows what I long to be. He knows my unspoken aches and dreams and desires and fears. There is comfort in being known completely.

The Bible speaks rich truth about our identity, and we all (but women especially) need to be reminded. While the world may pressure us to be more, do more, and give more, the Bible tells us we are already enough.

In Christ, we are complete.

Jamie Janosz
Jamie Janosz
JAMIE JANOSZ lives with her husband, Milt, and daughter, Sabrina, in Central Florida. She is the author of When Others Shuddered: Eight Women Who Refused to Give Up by Moody Publishers and has contributed to magazines Catapult and Her.meneutics (of Christianity Today). She enjoys antiquing, reading, renovating her midcentury house, and (whenever possible) taking walks on the beach.

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